I will convince you to chase your dream

Rafay Hiraj
5 min readNov 26, 2021


You have two lives!

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one — Confucius

The biggest regret people have when on their deathbed are the things they did not do. Is this not depressing? Life is too short to dwell on the past, but the thing is when people are on their deathbed, that for them is the ultimate moment to reflect on their life and think of everything they could have done. If your dream is overwhelming simply break it down to simple daily tasks but practice consistency. Even if the tasks are small it is reassuring that you are making progress. And during all this imagine accomplishing what you set on to achieve. Imagine that feeling and watch yourself reach there.

Why do you give a f***?

Before you set on to do something there is always that voice or picture of people laughing at you in your mind. People that you know. But ask yourself this. Why do you give a f***? Why do these people have power over your decisions and why do they have such immense power over you. Think like this, in 15/20 years, when you reach your goal, and you can inspire other people, no one will know who they were. If you set out to make a difference in whatever way, if your goal is daring, you are bound to have people who doubt you. That is just how life works. And if this becomes fuel to you, the more doubters the merrier, right? It is about your perspective. Make your

“I don’t have the time”

Maybe you work a 9–5 and have to take care of your children along the way. What can you do then? You don’t have the time. The logical thing to do is to give your dream as much time as possible. Even if you give it 5 minutes a day, you can constantly build on it. Imagine how far along you will be in a year. Starting with just 5 minutes can do wonders in a year. Just make sure you are consistent and patient.

“What if I fail?”

The question is not “what if I fail,” the question that needs to be asked is what do I do when I fail. Failure for someone ambitious is as certain as death and that is ok. The problem nowadays is the perception people have of failure. It is not a setback, rather it is an indication that you are getting somewhere. The more you go through failure the more likely you will be successful. So when you fail, get up and fail again so you get up again to fail again. But what is certain is through your persistence you will be successful. If you fail 10 times who’s counting? And even if someone is, you do not need to. Don’t be afraid of failure, welcome it, it tells you how to be successful. Let me tell you failure is not the opposite of success. The opposite of success is giving up/not trying. Remind yourself of that. Failure is the perfect teacher and only through great failures will you reach ultimate successes.

You are in control!

I am the master of my ship, the captain of my soul — William Earnest Henley

The sooner you tell yourself that you control your life, the sooner you will be happier. No matter how bad the situation seems, know that there is always a way out and when there is not, you can always go through. Remember, the people who believe external situations are the reason they are not happy will never be happy. This is because external situations will never change. It is just how it has always been and how it will continue to be. If you seize control of your steering wheel you might run through some traffic, heck you might even get in accidents but at least you know where you are going. You might even have a fatal accident but at least you decided to strive for your happiness. In external situations, people feel powerless but what God has given to us is the ability to empower ourselves whenever we want. That is nothing less than a superpower and we must not waste it.

The odds of you being here!

The odds of your dad meeting your mom are 1 in 20000. The probability of you getting just the right DNA from your parents are 1 in 400,000,000,000,000,000. Yeah! Pretty massive right. But this does not stop here. The odds of the universe having just the right rate of expansion to facilitate life are equivalent to rolling 6 70 times in a row! This is equal to 1/6⁷⁰! Are you still worried about failing? Not only this but the odds of you reading this article are unprecedented, incalculable.


Your dream chose you, not the other way round!

You did not choose your dream, it chose you. When your vision/dream chooses you, give that the courtesy of attention, not to people who tell you it’s not possible. Your attention is valuable and the quicker you realize that the better. Don’t waste your attention on people who are afraid of what you could become. Not only are they falling but they are pulling you down with them. Know your worth, stand by it, and don’t let anyone else define you

If you have made it this far, I want to tell you that you got it! You can do it! All you need to do is kill the voice that tells you you can’t do it, your self-doubt (https://rhiraj.medium.com/start-off-your-day-by-killing-self-doubt-6d1b7bebb54e), if you are interested in that feel free to check out my article, that could help you out. So go after what it is you wish to achieve and celebrate your minor successes along the road. Nothing can stop you if you put your mind to it. You got this! Dreams are what give life meaning so get out there and live a meaningful life with your rules!



Rafay Hiraj

Self Improvement and Life Lessons